Sunday, 16 December 2012

Breaking Bad

I'm watching an episode of a tv series called 'Breaking Bad'.  It's not really what I logged in here to write about, but it's ended up being on the telly in front of me and it's pretty gripping.  It's one of those shows that I can't help but watch.  My ten year old son hates it.  My partner and I find that really interesting ... he will play violent video games quite happily, but this show, which is violent in a very real and gritty sense, but which is also darkly humorous, my son finds terrifying.

Anyway - what else is going on for me?  I had a pretty serious falling out with the father of my son during the week.  Usually I do my best to keep the peace between us for the sake of making my son's life good.  This week though, some things finally got to me, and I finally cracked.  There had just been one too many demands for more money and too few equivalent contributions for items like clothing.

Sadly, when I crack, I crack.  I didn't handle the situation that well I suppose.  I don't like being hung up on, over and over again.  In the end I went to visit my ex, knowing that my son was at a friends for a play for the afternoon.  When I got there, he indicated that he did not want to talk.  I said that we needed to, that he needed to listen to me, that there were things that we needed to sort out.  He said "you are angry, go away, I don't want to talk to you now, today".  I refused to leave.  He threatened to call the police if I did not.  I told him go ahead.

Obviously, once a conversation starts going down those roads, it's not going anywhere good.  Anyway - my ex went out on his veranda and made a call on his mobile phone and then left the house.  Before he left he said to me: "you'd better leave before the police get here".  I thought about it and figured that leaving when the police are on there way to get you is not a good move from a 'criminal action' perspective, though I don't really know.  I've never had a whole lot to do with the law.  I did hear my ex give my name, date of birth and address over the phone though, so I made a cup of tea and stuck around.

I sat on the deck with my cup of tea and waited.  I sipped my tea and I waited.  I finished my tea, and the police had still not arrived so I phoned my ex (location uncertain) and asked how long the police had said they'd be.  He sounded angry and said they had not been specific.  I didn't want to spend my whole evening waiting, so I called the local police station and enquired.  They said they didn't have any call logged about me at all.  The officer on the phone got a bit annoyed and said: "do you want to log a call or not?".  At that stage, I thought, OK .... lets go with this.  My lying, passive aggressive, bully boy ex wants to play head games, lets go with this.  I told them that they'd better come on over as my ex was adamant that he'd called them to make a complaint about me.

Anyway - things have settled down a bit since then.  We've got a draft parenting plan that we are working on and there seems to be some boundaries back in place.  I don't know where it will go from here, but hopefully, hopefully ... not all to shit.

The guys on Breaking Bad are brewing poison out of beans now, to deal with a drug dealer who they want to get rid of.  I don't think my situation will get to that.

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